WHAT A MOTHER TOLD HER SON A DAY BEFORE HIS WEDDING

Mummy's boy, you are now a man. 
Tomorrow you will have a new mother, a new cook and a new person to share all your secrets with. 
It will no longer be me but her. 
Love your new mum even more than you love me. 
Before you walk into her arms forever, let me give you some words to guide you.


There was a day I was arguing with your father. 
We were screaming, tempers were high. 
I was angry and he was angry. 
Then I called him an idiot..! 
He was shocked, he looked at me asking how dare I call him that. 
Immediately started calling him idiot, fool, stupid, crazy. 
I called him all sort of name. 
Guess what he did..? 
He didn’t raise his hands to hit me. 
He just walked away, banging the door as he went out.


My Son, if your father had hit me and destroyed my eyes, how will you feel sitting here with me today..? 
How will you regard him as your father..? 
Would you have been proud of him or would you be blaming me for calling him names..? 
Never hit your wife..! 
No matter the provocation just walk away and things will be normal. 
Whenever she offends you, think of this story I just told you, it could have been your mum..!


Before I forget, after he left, I was filled with guilt. 
We slept on same bed that night and I went to him the next day. 
I pleaded with him. 
I did all I could to show am sorry and he forgave me. 
That day I cooked his favorite food, yes you know he loves pounded yam and vegetable soup, right..? After that day, I never called him names, my respect for him was ten times stronger.


There is something very important you must always do, my son listen very carefully, defend your wife. 
When she is under pressure, stand by her. 
If your friends hates her, it is your duty to make them see her as a Queen. 
Your uncle , I mean uncle Emmanuel Sam never liked me. 
But your father was always supportive until his perception changed.
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There was a day your father was going to host the owner of his company and friends. 
They were three of them. 
That day I was in the kitchen cooking for them and your father went to buy drinks. 
When the table was set and food was served.
Everyone started eating. 
Then I remembered I did not add salt in the food. 
I was embarrassed. 


Your father tasted the food and looked at me. 
He immediately turned to the guests. 
He told them that he instructed his wife last month not to add salt whenever she is cooking because of some problem with his body. 
He said it in a funny way and everyone laughed..! 
The guests understood and he asked me to bring salt and everyone added according to their taste. 
He managed to eat the food without salt. 
After the guest left, he went on his knees and asked God to forgive him for lying.
Your wife is like a baby, sometimes she don’t know what to say or do. 
Stand up and speak for her..!


Now let me talk to you about sex. 
You see sex is a wonderful thing. 
Do not be surprised if your wife enjoy and need sex more than you do. 
There were days, I needed sex more than your father and there were days he needed it more than me but the important thing is to always try to satisfy the other when they need you. 
Don't always think of your self.


There was a time things were hard and I needed to do two jobs to support your father. 
One night I was so tired. 
When I got to bed he was in the mood. 
He tried to make love to me and I didn't refuse him. 
I was tired but I felt I needed to be there when he needed me. 
When he tried undressing me, he saw my look and he stopped. 
He asked what was wrong and I said nothing. 
But he understood me better. 
He stopped and then started telling me stories until I fell asleep.


My son, sex is best enjoyed when the two parties are physically and mentally ready for it. 
Sometimes, read your wife and understand her.
Make it a habit to go anywhere with your wife. 
Beside your job, move around with her. 
If anyone invite you to his house and told you not to come with your wife then be very careful. 
Use wisdom.
I know you love mummy.
I know you tell me all your problems. 
But now things will be different.


Let your wife be the first to know before me. 
Let her be the first to see before me.
When you have problems with her don’t run to me immediately. 
Wait for a day to pass and then talk to her about it. 
Pray about it. 
Report her to nobody but talk issues out within yourself.
Finally, don't forget to come and visit me with your wife every month..!


I know you will have a happy home. 
You will always be mummy's boy. 
God will bless your home. 
Pleas don't forget God, pray and seek His assistance always.

Written By Siti Khadijah Halil

FIRST LOVE AND SECOND LOVE

People have always told me that first loves are the most important loves out there. 
I have read articles about it, heard songs, seen poetry. 
They portray it to be the best love, romanticizing it to make it seem better than it really is. 
You see, when we are young we all want to meet someone and fall in love. 
That's how all of the fairy tales end, am I right..? 
You meet a boy, fall in love, the end. 
However, it is not as easy as that.


[Side note : If you are still with your first love, I am not saying you two will not end up together. It happens, and I am rooting for you..!]


First loves are important, I don't mean to down play it too much. 
They do teach you so many lessons about love. 
They teach you how to love, and how you want to be loved. 
They are the love you experience before all of the baggage, and trust issues. 
However, first loves teach you these lessons the hard way, because often times you do not end up with your first love.


Because first loves are also your first heartbreak. 
I don't mean a couple of tears kind of sad. 
I mean ugly crying with a tub of ice cream sad. 
The kind of sad that takes some time to recover from.
They are important. Just not the most important.


You see, second loves don't nearly get as much credit as they should.
Second loves are the loves that make you believe in everything again. 
When your world comes crashing down like that, you think you will never feel that way about someone else again. 
It's hard to see past it all at first. 
Second loves give you hope. 
Second loves teach you that first love won't be the last.


When I was 17, I thought I had the world in the palm of my hand. 
I was dating Joe Shmoe or whatever, and I thought it was the best it could ever get.


Until it wasn't.


It was also my first heartbreak, and at first I thought I would never feel that way again. 
You see, society teaches you to always put your first love in a special place. 
I thought it was something I wouldn't recover from.


Until I did.


I do not regret anything from back then, but I wish I could tell my past self how much better it gets. To not be so sad. 
That you do get over it. 
That it does stop hurting.


I have never been so happy in my entire life. 
I have never felt more love, or been given more love. 
I could never have imagined I would be where I am today.


If you are just getting over your first love, trust me when I say that it does get better. 
If you think he was great, just wait until you meet the real deal.


And hey, if you are anything like me, sometimes your second love teaches you that your first love wasn't really your first love after all.

Written By Siti Khadijah Halil

ONE DAY YOU WILL

One day, you'll remember the girl who loved you so much that she forgot to love herself. 
You'll remember her when you wake up, when you eat, when you're about to sleep. 
She will be your greatest nightmare. 
You will be the one crying, and she will be the one happy with someone else.


One day, you'll regret losing her. 
You lost the girl who did everything for you. 
You lost the girl who was always there for you when no one else is. 
You lost her because of your ego. 
You lost the girl who stayed by your side even if you threw harsh words to her. 
You lost the girl who tried to understand you when she needed you and you were not there.


One day, you'll realize that she was the one for you. 
The girl who stood by your side even if you don't appreciate her. 
The girl you chose to let go because you're full of pride. 
One day, you'll realize that the girl you screwed up and left for another girl, was the girl who kept on fighting and defending you when she hears gossips about you.


One day, you'll see her happy and contented with the life she have when you left her. 
She will thank you for letting her go and for making her realize she is worth of something so much better, that there is someone out there who is willing to do everything for her. 
She will look into your eyes with no feelings for you at all.


One day, when you see her, you will feel like you've been stabbed in your heart a millions times for giving up on her. 
And when that day comes, no matter what you do, no matter what you say to her, it will not make sense because she was already done spending years of her life trying to make you love her as she loved you. 
But you didn't.

Written By Siti Khadijah Halil

BLOG IS NOW SET TO PUBLIC

This blog was set to private back then..
But, I have decided to put it to public since I am about to publish a lot of stories and memories about me and him..
A lot more tips about beauty..
A lot more tips about traveling..
A lot more recipes to be shared with kind people all around the world..
A lot more review upon products such as skincare, lotion, or maybe outfits..
Last but not least, of course the bitter sweet diary of us..




Written By Siti Khadijah Halil