TO THE GIRL WHO NEEDS TO REMEMBER SHE'S MORE THAN ENOUGH

The most important thing I want you to take away from this is that you are most definitely, without a doubt good enough. 
I need you to remember there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.


I know there is a good chance you are rolling your eyes at that statement, you may be muttering to yourself, "yeah right" or "whatever" but mutter away cause it's true.


It's tough being the girl who cares too much. 
The girl who would do anything for those she cares about without wanting anything in return.


I totally get that. It can take a toll on a person.


You're the girl that overthinks everything. 
The one who worries about everyone before worrying about herself. 
You're the girl who loves with her whole heart. 
You jump in with no hesitations. 
You're also the girl who's had her heart broken because of it. 
The one who at the end of the day begins to question everything.


You need to erase this idea that there is something the matter with you. 
Delete the notion that you're unlovable, that you have some sort of personality flaw that stops someone from loving you.


You see the problem was never you. 
It's the boy you openly gave your heart to, that couldn't see the value in your love. 
A guy who took a heart of gold and tried to tarnish it. 
A guy who doesn't deserve the love you've continuously tried to give him. 
If he makes you feel like you're not good enough, he isn't good enough.


Forget that guy because as much as losing him hurts, there will be someone to pick up the pieces and help you leave him in the dust. 
There is someone out there who will show you how a real gentleman treats a lady.


Let me tell you, you deserve a man that will lift you up, help you believe in yourself, remind you fairy tales do exist and that you can have your own Nicholas Sparks tale, but it'll be even better cause it will be your own.


Stop comparing yourself to every other girl out there. 
You were born to be different, to be an individual. 
You're not supposed to be like everyone else, otherwise you wouldn't be you.


Just because she has some features you wish you had, doesn't mean you aren't deserving of the same things she is, it doesn't make you any less of a woman. 
She may be taller, weigh a little less than you but it doesn't make her better. 
Chances are there are things she doesn't like about herself as well.


The things you see as flaws or imperfections make you the wonderful woman you are.


Stop looking at yourself in the mirror feeling disgusted. 
Stop picking out all the things you hate about yourself. 
Focus on all the good. 
Stop telling yourself that if you lost a few pounds everything would be better. 
Stop convincing yourself your weight is a reason to not be worthy.


You have to learn to love yourself before you can expect someone else to love you. 
I promise there will be a guy who will love every little thing about you, even your love handles, the way your hairs a mess when you wake up and every other thing you think is wrong with your body.


Please know that the scale doesn't define you. 
You may be skinnier than other girls or you may be a little more curvaceous and both of those are perfectly fine. 
Embrace it all, because you are beautiful.


Forget those who make you feel any less deserving of respect, love, honesty, loyalty and trust. 
In fact tell them bye felicia. 
Don't let the door hit you on the way out, because those who refuse to see your worth or helped put the notion that you're not good enough is someone you don't need around.


Love yourself. 
You are wonderful and worthy.


You are more than "good enough". 
You're great, and your strengths outweigh your weaknesses everyday.


You are beautiful, strong, intelligent, witty, sarcastic, funny and worthy. 
You're a genuinely beautiful soul and a fantastic woman, so please believe in yourself, and screw the haters.

From one girl who let the world tell her she wasn't good enough, it's time we start believing we are.

Written By Siti Khadijah Halil

HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM WITH THE RIGHT PERSON..?

How do I know if I am with the right person..?


Every relationship has a cycle.
In the beginning ; you, fall in love with your partner. 
You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. 


Falling in love wasn't hard. 
In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. 
You didn't have to DO anything. 
That's why it's called "falling" in love.


People in love sometimes say, 

"I was swept of my feet"

Picture the expression. 
It implies that you were just standing there ; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.


Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. 
But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. 
It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.


Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. 
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship ; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.


At this point, you and / or your partner might start asking,

"Am I with the right person..?" 

And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. 
This is when relationships breakdown.


The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person ; it's learning to love the person you found.


People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. 
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.


Infidelity is the most common. 
But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. 
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. 
It lies within it.


I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. 
You could. 
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. 
But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.


Because the key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person.
It's learning to love the Person you found.


SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. 
You have to work on it day in and day out. 
It takes time, effort, and energy. 
And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. 
You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. 
Make no mistake about it..!


Love is NOT a mystery. 
There are specific things you can do with or without your partner.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe such as gravity, there are also laws for relationships. 
If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.


Love is therefore a "decision". 
Not just a feeling.

Written By Siti Khadijah Halil

HOPING THAT SOMEDAY, MIGHT GET A DIFFERENT ANSWER

Closure is just a term created by people so they can ask the same questions over and over, hoping that someday they might get a different answer. 
I don't need any answers. 


I never really understood why you didn't want me anymore, and perhaps I never will.
But, that doesn't really matter. 
Because the fact is that you didn't want me anymore. 
And all I can do is accept that. 
And I do, I accept that. 
I'm not going to forget about you. 


That's not my goal here. 
My goal is to be able to look back on everything objectively and remember the things I learned about myself and the things I learned about people and life without feeling the pain that goes a long with these kinds of things. 


So finally, this is me moving on. 
This is me wishing you well in whatever you pursue. 
This is me wishing you joy and happiness. 
And to one day, perhaps, being friends.

Written By Siti Khadijah Halil

WHY DO RELATIONSHIP FAIL..?

Some good things must come to an end. Why do relationships fail..?

  1. You didn't know each other that much during courtship stage.You discovered something negative about him / her while you are in a relationship already. That's why, know him or her first.

  2. Too much pride. Sometimes, it is just a petty issue, but because of too much pride it became a big one. Learn to say sorry. Be the bigger person.

  3. You get bored in your relationship. Sometimes, when you both have the same interest, what happens is that you don't have something new to try.

  4. You aren't just meant to be. No matter how hard you try, you aren't just for each other.

  5. Small issues getting piled up. Settle small issues and don't wait for it to sky rocket and will lead to trust issues.

  6. You aren't just ready to be in a relationship, but you forced it. Anything forced will never prosper to something worth keeping.

Written By Siti Khadijah Halil

TO MY FUTURE LOVER

Hey, you.


Please don't hurt me. 
Please don't hurt me, cause I don't plan on hurting you. 
We may be young but I've been through a lot of heartbreaks, and maybe you too. 
And I don't wanna go through all that pain again even if it's worth it.


I've dated a cheater. 
And I don't wanna date a cheater ever again. 
I won't forgive you. 
I need to let you go.


No matter how much you love me, no matter how much you say sorry, no matter how many times you explain and no matter how much I love you, I have to let you go. 
Even if it's going to kill me, even if it's gonna hurt like hell, I will let you go because I deserve better. 
I deserve someone who would love me, only me. 
I deserve to be the only one.


I have bad days, well I guess we all have those days. 
Some days I'm sad with no explanation. 
There are days that I just wanna be alone.
But I want to know that you would stay on those days, that you'll be there. 
I want to make sure that you want me when I'm happy and you still want me even I'm sad. 
I want to know that after that hard tiring day you'll still be there. 
I want to know if I'll see you at the finish line, smiling and making sure that it's just a bad day and tomorrow's going to be alright.


Please make time. 
I'm a clingy girl. 
I know some guys doesn't like clingy girls, sorry. 
It doesn't mean that you have to take me out but if you want too, we can go play at an arcade, or go for a road trip, or go visit museums, or eat all day, or go for an adventure, we can hang out and watch series or a movie. 
Or take long naps. 
Or do tasks. 
Or I can teach you how to cook, or we can bake. 
We can do anything. 


I love boyfriend days. 
If ever you're busy for a day, a week or a month, please leave a message. 
Let me know that you're gonna be busy and that you are going to be alright. 
Know that if everything's already stressful I'm just one call away, you can rant all you want, and I'm going to listen to every word you will say and after that I'm going to make sure that when we end the call you're already okay and ready to go back to being busy.


I don't want you to pay every time we go out. 
We can totally split the bill.


You can tell me anything you want. 
You can tell me if you love or hate dogs or kids. 
I wanna know you. 
I want to know your deepest secret, your fears, your goals, even your childhood crush. 
Or how your day was. 
I don't care if it's silly or dark, all I care is that you chose to tell me.


We may fight. 
We may fight over the aux chord, or how terrible driver I am, or how I'm too lazy, or how you're too lazy, or about that girl who smiled at you, or what I'm wearing. 
No matter how small or big our fight is please make sure that we both win in the end. 
That our relationship is bigger than any fight. 
That love wins.


If you're not looking for a serious relationship, leave. 
Just leave. 
I may be young but I don't play games. 
I want commitment.
I want consistency.
I want permanent. 
I want someone who's willing to stay. 
I want someone who has plans, for me or for himself. 
Know that I don't date guys I don't wanna marry. 


Cause what's the point..? 
If you don't wanna marry someone then why date them..? 
Why should you get to know them..?
Why should you love them..? 
If marriage is not the goal, what is..?


I'm thrilled to meet you. 
And please stay.

Written By Siti Khadijah Halil