DO NOT ALLOW HIM TO CONSUME YOU

If he does not call, go to sleep. 
If he does not message, put your phone away and have a fantastic day anyway. 
If he acts distant when you are with him and refuses to tell you what is wrong, don't wait for him, go home and do something you love. 


If he tries to insinuate you do not need your friends now that you have him, spend more time with your friends.
If he tries to teach you a lesson through the silent treatment, ignore him completely.
If he plays with your feelings constantly, walk away from him. 


If he acts like your body is his entitlement when you are not ready, walk away from him. 
If he says terrible, unforgivable things and threatens to leave you after every argument, walk away from him.


If he forbids you from doing anything you love, walk away from him. 
If he claims ownership of your accomplishments, walk away from him. 
If he demeans you or disrespects your being a girl and refuses to stop when you tell him it hurts, walk away from him.


I cannot stress this enough, you live for yourself first. 
He is a secondary character in the story of your life. 
Do not allow him to turn you into a secondary character in your own book.
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LOYALTY

In this world full of infidelity, it's really hard to find someone who can be loyal even if you're not with them, even you don't see what they're doing. 
A faithful partner is rare nowadays, but when you have found someone who can give the whole world to you, never let the person go. 


Someone who can sacrifice and give up everything just to be with you. 
Someone who is still there despite of your bad attitude. 
Someone who accepts your flaws. 
Someone who is there no matter what happens. 
Someone who'll pick to struggle than to end what you have. 
Someone who will make you feel like you're the only girl in the world. 


Appreciate him while he is there. 
Give him the best love you can, because not everyone will give you the love you wanted. 
Time is gold. 
Time is running. 


You're the one who is in charge of your life, no one else but you. 
So, when you already have the right person, do your best before it's too late.
Written By Siti Khadijah Halil

I BELIEVE IN WRONG PEOPLE

I believed in the wrong people all my life. 
Always giving people the benefit of the doubt. 
Always trusting souls I didn't know. 
Always allowing myself to be blinded by the picture I painted of people, rather than see them for who they really are. 
Always wanting to give pieces of myself to people who didn't value a soul or mind like mine. 
But life taught me in the end to have no regrets just lessons learned.
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THE IRONY OF LOVE

Maybe love is not some kind of blindness but seeing all imperfections but choosing to love still.
Maybe Paulo Coelho was right when he wrote in his book, "It is in the Realm of Love that we fight our first battles and generally lose"


Maybe loving is really giving and not expecting for something in return. 
Maybe "to love and be loved" is not really the greatest feeling in the world. 
But I say, maybe love is not some kind of blindness but seeing all imperfections but choosing to love still.


Many of us have already experienced that kind of one-sided love. 
That feeling of contentment when we just let ourselves love and never expecting to be loved back because we know how impossible it is. 
That feeling when you see that person happy and then suddenly, you just feel happy, too. 
And that feeling when little miracles happen and your heart jumps inside of your chest because of joy.


Definitely, none could protest on how happy we become because of little things love do to us. 
That even though that person would never notice us at all, we still hold on to that small spark of hope that someday, he or she may realize we were right there all along.


Sometimes, we get to that point that even though the people we love cherish somebody else, we still don't give up. 
Instead, our hopes just become higher. 
Even though we experience pain already again and again, we still choose to love. 
And even though we were torn into pieces many times, we still manage to pick up the pieces and be whole again.


The reason..? 
We love despite unwanted circumstances. 
We love simply because we love. 
Loving doesn't need any reason or explanation. 
It is what it is.


And maybe that is the very reason why there exists an irony of love. 
We are living in this world of realities that affect our lives over which we have no control with. Sometimes, what we want, we don't get. 
Sometimes, what we hoped for, even though we wait, never happen.


After all, we cannot force someone to just give back our love. 
And in this life of ironies, we shouldn't always expect something in return.
The more we are rejected and hurt, the more it leaves an imprint on our lives. 
The more we don't receive love back, the more we accept that some things aren't really meant to happen. 
And most importantly, the more we are torn into pieces, the more we learn how to stand up and be whole again many times.


That's why if you are victim of this unwanted circumstance, don't be so down. 
Don't feel so hurt that you are willing to give everything up. 
Because it is not pain that hurts us, it is that hope we hold on to.


Instead, learn how to love, love, and just love more. 
Because at the end of the day, nothing could still surpass that feeling of being happy with the little miracles even though you aren't loved back.
Written By Siti Khadijah Halil

HOW DO YOU LOVE A BROKEN-HEARTED GIRL

How do you love a broken-hearted girl :


Have a lot of patience. 
For she is lost, lost in track and in need of your guidance. 
She acts strong but she isn't. 
She is so fragile. 


Why..? 
People in the past damaged her, hurt and left her, and it made her hard and cold. 
If she needs time for her self, let her. 
Do not think that she doesn't love you anymore. 
She needs time for her self. too.


Give love like there is no tomorrow, like every minute is the last minute.


Efforts, very important. 
Effort makes her feel that she is special and worthy of your time.


Forgiveness, for she will surely make you cry. 
Make you scream, make you want to give up because of her attitude and mistakes ; which she doesn't mean at all.
Still forgive her. 
She doesn't know what she is doing.


Lastly, stay. 
Stay no matter how hard the situation is. 
No matter how messy things get. 
You will overcome it. 
Just stay. 
Don't be like those people who left her before. 
Stay, she needs you, she just acts like she doesn't.
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MOMENT YOU AFRAID TO LOVE AGAIN

"There will be a moment in your life that you would be afraid to love again. 
Maybe because you got hurt so bad that it broke down all of your walls and hopes that someone will help you and love you the way you want to be loved. 


Maybe because you've been in a long term relationship that you thought it would last for a lifetime, you put so much effort and time on the relationship, but he proved that forever wasn't true and depart from your life all of a sudden.


It is normal to feel afraid and to have trust issues after all the things happened in your life. 
It is normal to stop for a while and reevaluate the things around you. 
Don't worry, we all go through this part of the journey. 
But, don't close your heart entirely just because someone made it a little more fragile. 


Because in this life, you will meet someone who will make you feel and understand what real love is.
This someone will make you believe that wondrous things could be seen by the naked eyes. 
This someone will fill your sad songs with joyous lyrics and your gray-scaled world with enormous amount of colors.


You will meet this someone on your darkest night, he will give his light for you to surpass your storm. 
He will come into your life and make you feel love as if it’s the first time. 
He will complete the missing part of your journey. 
And he will be the reason why you will feel things like brand new and exciting again"



- E.J. Cenita (Baekebyan) -
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HOW TO LOVE A SAD GIRL

Kiss her forehead. 
Kiss her eyes. 
Kiss her nose and the birthmarks on her skin and all the places she does not love. 
Kiss her knuckles and her fingers and remind her to breathe. 
She needs that.
All of it. 


If she cries, your first question must be whether she wants you or not. 
Some days she'll need you to crush her boundaries completely and pull her so close that her heart can beat alongside yours. 
And some days she'll need you to let her drown a little bit on her own.
But you have to come back for her, after. 
Always come back. 


Do not yell at her. 
If you're angry, write it down or leave for a while to cool off and then have a level-toned argument with her. 
Do not yell. 
Do not ever yell.
Tell her you will be at her funeral and when she asks how you can be so sure you'll outlive her, tell her you're not sure of that at all. 
Tell her that even if you die tomorrow, you will be at her funeral.


Do not ask her why she is sad. 
She will tell you. 
If you truly love her and if she knows that, she will tell you. 
Open her curtains. 
She'll cringe and groan and make a scene, but she needs the light. 


She doesn't know how to make her own sunshine, so you've got to give her some. 
Let her tell you about things. 
Let her ramble on about a poet she loves or why she hates a certain singer. 
Let her bitch about her workday or describe how much she loves her sister. 


If you don't let her talk to you, she will never let you know her. 
Learn how to identify whether her eyes are stormy or calm. 
Learn her tones of voice and how to tell if she's really okay or if she just doesn't want you to worry. Learn her tells and her soft spots and love every last one. 


Take her to places, coffee shops, antique stores, city streets and your grandma's house. 
She wants to see the world, and she wants to see it with you. 
Kiss her toes. 
Kiss her shoulders and place butterfly kisses on her cheeks. 
Touch her hair and tell her all the things there are to love about her. 
Remind her to scream if she needs to. 
She needs that. 
All of it.
Written By Siti Khadijah Halil

PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN BROKEN

This goes out to all the people who have been broken but have been strong enough to let go.


For the people who have hurt so badly that they felt they could never love again, but kept their head up. 
For those who feel like going back to their old lover would put all the pieces back where they belong and everything would fit, but accepted the cold hard truth instead. 


For the people that learned from their mistakes and never stop moving forward, even when they take two steps back. 
For the people that wish loneliness wasn’t a part of them, but put up with it anyhow. 
For the people that are okay with taking up all of the room in the bed, even if sometimes it feels a little empty. 


For the people who wake up in the morning with no missed calls, but smile anyway. 
For the people that periodically miss the past, but are so much more excited for the future. 
For the people that have wounds still healing. 
For the people that have so much tied to their past relationship, but break those chains to start fresh. 


For the people that want to look back so badly, but focus on the road ahead. 
For the people that pick up the phone so tempted to call, but keep their dignity in tact instead. 
For the people that never wanted to let go, but had to. 
For the people that still believe in love even after all of the hurt their heart has endured. 
For all the people that gave up not because they were weak, but because most times it’s better just to let go.
Written By Siti Khadijah Halil